I’m My Kid’s Dad

by Kelvin Belfon

Im-my-kids-dad

 

My children are my world! They are one of the relationships that matter in my life.

As a child, I grew up in a single parent home. My mother, Diana, did her best to provide for my younger brother and me. She made many sacrifices and worked long 12-hour days, sometimes in 3 different jobs.

My mom didn’t graduated from High School because she had me at such a young age. Yet, she always encouraged me to excel academically. She wasn’t perfect but loved me. Today, she remains a very close friend and one of my biggest heroes.

Now that it’s my turn to parent, I understand the challenges she faced from a whole new perspective.

Parenting is not easy; and I’m quickly realizing how much I need to learn. The temptation to bail out emotionally is definitely there. It’s easy to say, “I’m busy,” or “Go ask your mom.” But I must resist these excuses.

It really doesn’t matter if your father was there or not. We still need to step up and take an active roll in our children’s lives. The risk of being an absentee father (physically or emotionally) is too high for us to ignore.

There are many influential people in my children’s lives. Grandparents, teachers, spiritual leaders, coaches and mentor, but a father’s influence has the greatest impact. It’s my job to invest my time, values, wisdom, passions, and love into them.

I want to be DAD.

This is not about being a perfect father because no one can achieve it. What’s required is to be present and do our best. Living the simple lifestyle helps me avoid distractions and stay focused on what matters most, my children. They are one of the important relationships in my life.

I’m my kid’s dad!

Thank you for reading!

If you enjoyed this post, please subscribe to going uncomplicated or comment below. 

 

Tagged , , , , , , , , , ,

19 thoughts on “I’m My Kid’s Dad

  1. Barbra says:

    Very well said! I love to see fathers step up! I’m reminded of a sign in my office which says: Dad – a boys first hero, a girls first love.

  2. Gabriele says:

    Wellandmd, Kelvin. I agree. Too many children grow up without a father, including my daughters. Life is very hard as a single parent and no matter how good of a parent you are you can never replace the male role model in a childs life. But no matter what the struggle, there is one thing that is much more important. As a parent it is our responsibility to be a parent. Not a friend. Too many people try to make up for shortfalls by being great buddies with their kids. You are not doing the child any favor that way. If your child needs a friend let them make one in school. Love your children but discipline them. Nothing is more telling about parenting than a misbehaving child. Pay attention to them, don’t blow them off. Make sure they know they can talk to you about anything without repercussion. Love them unconditionally but be their parent. And when you are blessed like I am you can be their friend once they are grown. My daughter is the single accomplishment in my life that I am very proud of. She loves God and people and as a parent I could not be more proud. Love and discipline – and talking with them, not at them – and obviously teaching them about our God – that is paramount in raising a happy child. And having a mom and dad that love their children like you and Camilla do, that is the best life for a child. 🙂

  3. Zelma Dodd says:

    you did well – momma Z

  4. Terri says:

    Kevin, I also grew up with a single mom, and while I don’t have kids of my own now, I often wonder just how she did it all. Your kids are beautiful, by the way!

    • Kelvin Belfon says:

      Thanks for sharing Terri. Looks like you had a super mom as well. Sorry, this is a random pic I found on the Google image.

  5. Gillian Claudia Johnson-Baptiste says:

    Awwwwww beautiful. Your priority is in the right place. Go dad!

  6. Shannon says:

    Word.
    Preach it! This relationship you are building is lifelong and very rewarding.
    I loved it.

  7. Keren Olibrice says:

    Yes, now it’s our turn to parent. So no bail outs, lets get to it! Well said!

  8. Kellyann says:

    Having a child/ren is a gift from God. Being a dad, is a duty, a lifelong responsibilty and I am proud to have read this blog because it shows how much you love your children and take your responsibility seriously. I strongly believe that every child needs their daddy in their life especially during childhood. A dad needs to support, guide and strengthen their child/ren. May God give his angels charge over you and guide you in all your ways (psalm 91:11) as you lead the way for your children and family. You are truly an example. God bless you!

    I am also proud to say that my husband, my children’s dad is a dad. He takes his responsibility seriously and love them with an unconditional love.

  9. Sharon says:

    Well said 🙂 I really love this post.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *