by Kelvin Belfon
“Once we truly know that life is difficult – once we truly understand and accept it – then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.” ~ M. Scott Peck
There is no such thing as a perfect life. In this life we’ll experience highs and lows. On some days things will go as planned and some days, we may be hostilely blindsided and spun around in a whirlwind of chaos and injury.
Have you ever asked yourself, “Why me?” You were the nice person. You did everything right and even played by the rules. All the same, trouble came knocking on your door.
It happens. It’s all part of our journey. No one is immune to life’s vicissitudes. Trouble comes to us all. It’s not a matter of if it will happen, but in most cases when.
Trials can invoke the worst in us at times. The stress can cause anger, blame, self-criticism, complaints and even withdrawal from others. It’s no fun.
Still, our difficulties are not the adversary. Their arrival isn’t always to punish the person experiencing them. Bad things do happen to seemingly good people!
A natural human response to the discomforts of life is to try to avoid or run away from our problems. But the more we avoid, sometimes, is the more the issues force themselves upon us. It’s inevitable.
There’s no way that I can even pretend to come up with something formulaic to ease the pain either. At any rate, I haven’t discovered yet a consistently effective and healthy remedy for hard times in my own life. But what I’ve found is that we can change our perception of and reaction to them.
We don’t need to see trials as evils; but we can choose to use them as a catalyst for personal maturity and character development. The season you’re in may very well still be pretty painful; but I can say for certain that a perspective change helps to move us from fighting the process, which only makes things worse, and toward accepting the journey, which leads to maturity.
How Can Difficulties Help?
- They create opportunities to solve problems. Our aptitude, skills and creativity can be unleashed to resolve the most improbable challenges. Unearth the diamonds that exist within each challenge.
- They bring perspective. We can gain insight and wisdom from our current plight that will help solve future challenges.
- They reveal our values and priorities. When our world is shaken up, we learn to value and prioritize the important people, things and experiences in life.
- They help us minimize. In the same way, when faced with challenges we learn to discard the non-essential to survive it all in the end.
- They help us discover our strengths. Problems build endurance and perseverance to keep us going when we feel like giving up.
- They bring humility. Our troubles are a reminder of our frailty and dependence on others.
- They confirm our relationships. Friendships are tested when things go wrong.
Accept the difficulties of life. They are only seasonal, created not to last. Don’t give up! Make the necessary adjustments. Learn what you can for the future. This is all part and parcel of the uncomplicated lifestyle.